Remembered Moments – Hope for Widows Blog

I went on a date last Saturday night…it was my first date with a new man I met in an online dating app. After two years of first dates, the only thing I know for sure is that you never know what to expect, but I was pleasantly surprised to find he was a nice guy: interesting, intelligent, fun to talk to. We were at a bar and grill, chatting over drinks. About one hour into the evening, every so often, he reached across the table and put his hand on mine. That’s nice, I thought. I think that’s a sign that he likes me.

But then, in the midst of our pleasant chatter, my mind flew back 25 years to another first date, when another interesting, intelligent, fun man reached across the table and put his very large hand on mine.

No no no no no. Not now. I’m having fun. I’m moving on. I’m living again. Please don’t remind me of all I’ve lost now. Let me enjoy this moment….

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About the author

Katherine Billings Palmer is a technical writer, poet, and essayist from Garden City, Michigan. She’s won several academic writing awards, including first place in the University of Michigan Dearborn Critical Essay Contest for her work about poet John Donne: “‘The Sun Rising’: A Lover’s Boast.”

In 2017, Katherine’s husband, Rick, died of complications from small cell lung cancer. She wrote a series of poems and essays about her struggles to cope with her grief. I Wanted to Grow Old With You is available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle editions.

Her latest book, A Widow’s Words: Grief, Reflection, Prose, and Poetry – The First Year was published in January 2019 and is also available on

Katherine is a guest blogger for the Hope for Widows Foundation and writes about her grief journey at

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