AKA "The Writing Woman"
I hear a lawn mower running outside. It’s a beautiful (too early) fall day. You would love this. You would love the smell of autumn, and the sounds of the mower outside the window. You would want to take a nap with the window open, curled like a burrito in your old stinky blanket. You…
It’s work at home Friday again. I can imagine you in your office, doing whatever chore is required today to keep the business going. I can hear you asking me, “Is there anything I can do to help?” when I complain that there are too many deadlines and I can’t keep up. I can’t go…
You did everything you were supposed to do. I asked if you were angry. You said, what can I do? All I can do is what they tell me now. And you did. Four rounds of chemo Pills for nausea 30+ lung radiation treatments 10 brain radiation treatments Numerous numerous numerous blood tests 3 blood…
Officially dead. One by one, form by form, I remove your name from our accounts and you begin to disappear from this world. No longer joint owner on our bank accounts, credit cards, mortgage, pension. No longer listed as beneficiary on anything of mine. Removing your name from each feels like a dagger through my…
Thank you. For going to work every day so I can have choices now. Your 32 years of hard work has provided me with stability in retirement. I remember how hard you worked the last five years before you retired: starting over, working your ass off loading planes, relearning airport codes, and testing to regain…
You’re supposed to hold me when I’m grieving. For more than twenty years, your huge warm comforting embrace has been my strength through sadness and despair. How can I live through losing you? You were my bulwark. Your giant strong hands held mine through every loss I suffered, every sadness, every disappointment. Whose hands will…
I knew I loved you, but I didn’t know how much. I knew it would hurt when you were gone, but I couldn’t imagine this pain. I knew the house would feel empty, but never thought it would be this quiet. I knew you were special to me and I was right. I knew our…
Evenings are the worst. Coming home from work to an empty house – the new normal. No plans, no dinner, no evenings on the deck, chatting about our day, drinking wine and eating appies and listening to Five for Fighting Pandora. No watching you prep and grill dinner while I grab a swim. No moving…
I just found the announcement we were going to post on Facebook in March 2017. I think we both felt that the time was never right: Rick is pretty private when it comes to talking about personal issues on FB, but I have to announce something major. The truth is, after his sudden “sodium issues”…
Pain menu Which memory shall I select? What will bring on the tears? You at the end? Hooked to monitors, breathing by machine? You at the beginning? Our first date? Our first kiss? Or the many options from the 21 years in between? The memory selection is endless. The choices are triggered with little to…